Here at Reviva we are watching this latest media storm with interest as this is our business!
I am sure everyone is aware this week of Pippa Middleton’s No Ring, No Bring policy, which has sent the media into a frenzy as they debate the real reason behind this decision for their wedding on the 20th May.
All the wagging fingers are pointing to the assumption Pippa does not want Harry’s girlfriend, Meghan Markle, upstaging her on her special day as she marries James Matthews, therefore, has put this policy into place to supposedly discreetly stop the actress from attending.
Pippa is now branded the Bridezilla of 2017, BUT, and here is a big BUT, why should she have fairly new partners of friends and relatives at her wedding?
It is not a case of being upstaged as she already has the most stunning, famous sister in the world attending her wedding along with her adorable family.
It is a high society wedding and there is always a protocol involved, the guest list, in this circumstance, has to be managed much more carefully.
With society weddings there are guests that have to be invited, we are currently managing a guest list with your Highnesses and Excellencies, they are invited as it is the done thing to do in certain circles whether it be business or social etiquette.
Whilst this is not a Royal wedding it is a high society wedding with Royal guests, it is going to be well documented. As with any society wedding with Royalty attending they do not want photographs of high profile guests with current partners who may or may not run the course.
If we go back a few decades to when Prince Charles was a young, free single man with many admirers, we did not see him bring the latest squeeze to any hi profile events. A partner was not introduced into the equation until he was officially engaged to be married.
It really is as simple as this and it would not be a decision made by Pippa, it would have been considered by the Royal household along with the Middleton family to avoid this situation. For the press to turn this into another circus ground, is of course what they are good at, but Pippa’s wedding will have been well and truly vetted, given her close proximity to the Royal family and this is not her decision.
This brings me to the subject of inviting plus ones to weddings, many times, too often to count, I have received our clients guests lists, looked in horror as I read Bob plus one with no name, or even worse, a question mark?????
When I address this with our couples they tell me they are just trying to find out his or hers name and if they are still dating.
They are inviting people to their weddings as a plus one without even knowing their names, let alone who they are?! Many couples are working to a budget and it always makes me cringe when they are inviting someone they don’t know, perhaps have never met or only met on a few occasions because their friend has fallen head over heels in love on a recent Tinder date! Yet they have booted dear Auntie Sally off the guest list to keep numbers down?!
They have probably already had debates about which family members, cousins, etc to leave out but are expected to accommodate the anonymous plus one latest muse and are paying for them to attend their wedding.
This to me never makes sense and why are they doing this, I never really know but I am guessing it makes Bob happy? Or in this case a Harry!
We have even, to my utter horror, had to create table seating plans which say plus one, given the catering teams menu choices with plus one and written out place cards with a plus one!
The situation with Pippa’s wedding is the plain fact she is she cannot have partners of high profile guests who may not be around in a years time attending as they will be in the photographs. I doubt she has ever met Meghan Markle Sparkle either but that is beside the point!
Let’s be brutally honest, the arrival of Meghan has not been met with open arms by the general public, her relationship with Harry has had controversy surrounding it so why bring this also to the wedding, although I understand an engagement is imminent so I watch this space with interest.
This also opens the debate as to whether long terms couples who have not committed to the ring, would be able to attend or not. In these situations, it is discretion, if they have been together longer than most marriages and are known to the couple, then of course they should be invited. I am amazed I have even seen this bought to the table for discussion.
Megan is the plus one, we all know her name so thankfully don’t have to put her on the guest list as a plus one, and I doubt Pippa and James have met her. There are far better social events for her to be introduced to the circle but not at Pippa and James’s wedding.
I personally cannot wait to see what their wedding will look like and how it is styled especially as they are party planners.
I would welcome your thoughts about this subject, it is an interesting one and a dilemma I find most of our couples in during their wedding planning but when it is being overseen by the Royal Household it is a completely different matter and I do think Pippa needs a break!